It seems like only
yesterday that everyone looked forward to retirement as the “golden
years,” a time of relaxing, playing golf, some travel and visiting
grandkids. I remember leading an early retirement workshop at IBM 15
or so years ago when a 55 years old man, eagerly accepting the early
retirement option, said he planned to sail around the world in his
boat with his wife. When I asked him what he would do after that, he
hadn’t even thought of the future. The thought of freedom to pursue
a dream was so appealing that life beyond was not even considered.
There has been a
shift now. The longevity revolution, where many people are living
active lives 20-30 years and more beyond retirement age, is part of
the reason. Boredom in Paradise! Life without structure, community,
and a deep soul nurturing sense of purpose is not satisfying for
most of us. Added to this, the economic downturn has caused many who
were considering retiring at 65 or earlier to realize that they have
to work to make ends meet.
In my career
coaching practice, I hear many clients in later midlife and beyond
questioning their future. Those who are still working often feel
stymied and frustrated in their work. The exciting challenges have
been met and they long to express more of themselves. Those who have
retired or are unemployed realize that endless days of freedom and
time is often not enough. Their careers provided a framework for
their lives. When this is ripped away, they feel unsettled and
disconnected.
If midlife is a time
of self- reflection, this time of later and beyond midlife is even
more so. It is time to ask the big questions: Who am I really? What
is the unlived part of me? What is my legacy to the world? How can I
serve and be connected to a larger purpose. As Carl Jung once said:
“ We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of
life’s morning—for what was great in the morning will be little at
evening, and what in morning was true will at evening become a lie.”
Jane Fonda, on a
book tour for her new book Prime Time recently spoke in Berkeley
about her life and observations at age 73. She left Ted Turner
because with him life was great but “horizontal”. She had the need
to go deeper and examine the earlier stages of her life to fully
live what she calls her “third stage”. Fonda looks at the years
beyond 60 not as a decline but as an “ascending staircase.” She
didn’t mention God, but spiritual as well as personal growth was
strongly implied.
Marc Freedman in his
newly published book The Big Shift: Navigating the New Stage Beyond
Midlife really nails it. He calls for a new map of life and names
the years between middle age and being elderly the “encore stage”.
We are beyond middle age and not yet old. We have energy,
creativity, experience, time, and a desire to serve, to do something
meaningful and to leave our legacy.
In this book and his
previous one called Encore: Finding Work That Matters in the Second
Half of Life, Freedman interviews scores of individuals leaving
corporate and professional jobs and transitioning to work in the
nonprofit, educational, and public service areas. This subject has
long fascinated me and as I recently looked through my files I see
that I have collected numerous ideas and articles related to it
since 2003. Thank you, Marc, for naming it. There has been some talk
in the media recently of older people being a burden on society.
This certainly doesn’t have to be so. The need to connect, to be
part of a community making a difference in the world, to leave a
meaningful legacy calls us and is part of our human journey. It is
time for more of us to do the inner work and then find our own
individual path and direction for this important next stage of our
lives.
Please join me
Sunday, September 18th at the New York Open Center in New York City
where I will be leading my workshop Encore Careers: Creativity, Work
and Meaning in the Wisdom Years. I promise it will be a fulfilling
and valuable experience. And who knows what we will be beginning
here? Perhaps a future revolution!